How? “Sing: you can’t sing and be angry simultaneously,” James says. “But even more important is to find positive thoughts about this other driver,” he says. “Think about him as a human being, a father or a neighbor.”
James says it might help just then to remember the times when you have done the same thing or something similar. “Think about the driving mistakes you’ve made,” he says.
In other words, come to the offending motorist’s defense. “You make excuses for him in your own mind,” James says. “Maybe he doesn’t drive much,” James says. “Maybe something terrible has just happened to him.”
You’re not really bailing out the other driver, though. “You do it for yourself,” James says. “We’re talking about the trucker managing his or her emotions. You don’t just manage your truck and your schedule. You manage your emotions.”
James says by controlling the immediate emotional response to another motorist’s bad driving, you prevent enraged thoughts and actions from developing. “Evaluate yourself and make changes in your reactions,” he says. “Your purpose is to transform negative feelings into positive ones.”