Here’s my list of the top 10 reasons I’m happier when I’m single.
10. The dog can sleep wherever he wants, even on my sheets.
9. I can wear what I want to wear, when I want to wear it, even if it’s not ironed.
8. I can watch whatever I want to watch on my own damn TV.
7. I can put my boots on my own sofa.
6. I’m in charge of my own finances.
5. I can drink milk right from the carton.
4. The phone is always for me.
3. Ice cream can be for breakfast.
2. There’s nobody telling me to walk around my truck 32 times.
1. And the number one best reason to be single? Nobody to disappoint on Valentine’s Day!
Men, if you are thinking about breaking up with someone, do it before Feb. 14!
I’m just say’n (sorry Carolyn, I couldn’t resist!),
You had me at letting the dog sleep on the sheets!
I’m just say’n.
After spending the best years of my life with a man who never really loved me, I finally found the courage to divorce him. Life was hard at first. I had to learn how to handle my finances, fix my own stuff when it broke, mow my lawn and kill my roaches. But I came through it and am stronger/better/happier than I ever expected to be. The reason I’m writing is that I happened to run across my ex and his new wife at the grocery store the other day. He was actually shopping with her, they were laughing, touching and obviously in love. I was amazed at how happy and genuinely relaxed he seemed. In all the years we were married, he never went to the grocery store once, and he certainly never smiled at me like that! I know it’s a small thing and I shouldn’t obsess over it, but I keep thinking that maybe I was more to blame for our lousy marriage than I once thought. He was very nice when he saw me staring at them, and I was extremely embarrassed to have been caught gawking. Now I’m just depressed by the whole thing.
What do you think?
I think that relationships are complex. You are a different person now than you were in your marriage. He may be different now or merely reacting to different dynamics with a different partner. Now that you are stronger/happier and more confident you are looking at your old marriage through a new prism. You are experiencing the somewhat uncomfortable realization that no one person is usually completely to blame for a relationship’s failure.
So. Now that you know he’s happy, get back to the business of your happiness.
I’m just say’n.
My daughter has cerebral palsy and is in a wheelchair. She’s a beautiful, smart, funny 12-year-old, and her favorite thing is to go to the movies. On Christmas Eve, my wife and I decided to splurge and treat her to a show. When we got to the theater, there was a long line, and we waited in the cold to buy our tickets. By the time we got to the counter, they were sold out. We turned around to leave, and a man who had been ahead of us came over and gave us the three tickets he had just bought. He refused to let me pay for them. He was wearing a Freightliner ball cap, and I feel sure he was a fellow truck driver. That’s all I know, but if you could print this, I’d sure appreciate it. He made my daughter’s Christmas complete by his act of kindness.
Jason in Little Rock, Ark.
I’m just say’n.