Is this a red flag?

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Dear Carolyn,

I’ve been dating a new guy for about three months now and everything is going well. He’s smart, cute, funny and ambitious. He also owns his own truck and is about to buy two more trucks and start a small company. That’s the good news. The bad news is that when we go out to eat he’s rude and unpleasant to the server. Last night he made our waitress cry because she forgot to refill his tea. I tried to talk to him about it but he says that he’s just honest with his opinion and that if he doesn’t correct their bad service, they will ultimately fail at the job. I’m too embarrassed to talk to any of my friends about this.

What do you think? Is this a deal-breaker?



Dear Sally,

I think you can tell a lot about a person by how they treat people they consider beneath them. This is a red flag as far as I am concerned. As a former waitress, I can say that my advice may be a little colored by the boiling red rage that’s swirling around me as I write this reply. So, ahem, you have been warned. Here goes:

Dump. Him. Now.

I’m just say’n,

Readers, what do you consider red flags in new relationships? Would this fall in that category? Help me out here!