Why can't we be friends?

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Dear Carolyn,

Can former lovers really carve out a friendship? Please hurry and answer this because I don’t know what to do. We think we can do it, but if it’s hopeless, I don’t want to go down that road.


Dear Jessie,
It can be done. I’ve seen it done. But the question I have for you is, why do it? I mean, if it’s not working out as lovers, move on along and find someone that it does work out for. And then, you can be all the good things together.
Former lovers make lousy friends. There’s always the sense that one or the other might have regrets. Then again, former friends can make for lousy lovers because there’s always that sense that you were better off friends. Actually, I have no idea how anyone ever figures out their relationships. Luckily for me, they don’t!
I’m just say’n,