The art of flirting

user-gravatar Headshot

Dear Carolyn,

I’m a hard working, truck driving man but for some reason, I’m not very lucky with the ladies. I have lots of female friends and am well regarded in my hometown. I’m not the most handsome guy in the world but chicks don’t run screaming from the room either. I’ve asked my girl friends and they say part of the problem is that I don’t know how to flirt with a girl. I’ve hung out with my buddies and it seems to come naturally to them. Please give me some tips on flirting. I’m desperate.


Dear Dave,

The art of flirting comes naturally to some but for others, it’s an acquired skill. I promise you, it’s really not that hard. Here are some tips:

Make eye contact
When you speak, keep your eyes focused on hers. Don’t look around to see if there is a better looking gal nearby. Don’t watch the game. Don’t check your watch. Look her in the eyes.

Mirror her body language
If she’s smiling, you smile. If she shakes her head, you shake your head. If she flings her drink in your face; game is over.

Step into her space
This one is tricky. Don’t get too close, but get close enough to signal your interest.

Touch her lightly on the arm
Lightly, please.

Relax, enjoy and practice. Good luck and please, seriously, don’t touch her arm all that much. And don’t step in too close. And, never mind, you’ll be fine.
I’m just say’n,