What does she really mean?

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Dear Carolyn,

Can you please help explain something to me? My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 years. We get along well and I don’t have any complaints. However, recently, she’s started to whine that she ‘loves me’ but is not ‘in love’ with me. What the &*% does that mean? And who cares? Are we really supposed to stay “in love” forever? I like love much better than I like, in love.
Is this chick language for something else? Like she wants me to get a haircut or buy her something? Why can’t women just say what they mean?


Dear Jim,

Well, she is telling you something. But you are right, it’s in code. You hear, “I love you but I’m not ‘in love’ with you.” I hear;” let’s break up.”

Now, I could be wrong. (It has happened.) There’s always the possibility that she really means, “I’m worried that you don’t love me anymore.”
In that case, all you have to do is tell her you love her.
But I don’t think that’s what’s happening here.
I’m just say’n,

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