Trust issues

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Dear Carolyn,

I accidentally saw a text message on my husband’s phone when I was cleaning out his truck. It was from an old high school girlfriend that lives in another state. I had no idea they were in contact. There was nothing flirty in the messages but just the fact that he didn’t mention her makes me feel sick. Should I confront him with this or will he be rightfully mad that I invaded his privacy?


Dear Jill,

Tell him what you saw and ask him for a full explanation. You can’t be a trucking wife if you can’t trust your long distance relationship. How would he feel if you had male friends he didn’t know about?

This is not to say that men and women can’t be friends, it just needs to be all out in the open. This may be completely innocent. Or, it may be something that needs to be nipped in the bud.

I’m just say’n,


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