Should I move in?

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Dear Carolyn,

My boyfriend and I are talking about moving into together. We’ve been dating for two years and are very compatible. Neither of us is ready for marriage but it makes economic sense to combine households. He’s on the road for weeks at a time and expects me to help him run his.  I keep up with his apartment, plants, dog and bills along with all my own stuff. It would be much easier and less expensive to move in. My mother is adamantly against the idea. Why buy the cow, blah blah blah. I’m more blasé about it. It’s a good business decision.

What do you think?



Dear Jean,

I see your point and it certainly seems, on paper, that it would make good economic sense. However, I want to warn you that it’s much easier to move in than it is to move out.  If this really were a business decision, I’d say go for it. But because this is your boyfriend we are talking about, you need to go into it with eyes open. Unlike a roommate, if the relationship fails, you’ll have emotional fallout along with having to divide up the Johnny Cash albums. Keep your own place and work on the relationship. If you see yourself with this guy for the long haul, by all means, move in.
I’m just say’n,


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